❄️ 12 Days of Regulation: Day 4 ❄️
Welcome to Day 4 of our 12 Days of Regulation series! Today’s tool is all about confidence, identity, and positive self-talk — essential ingredients for emotional regulation.
🌈 Why the Wall of Success Helps With Emotion Regulation
Kids who struggle with emotional regulation often experience:
Negative self-talk
Low frustration tolerance
Difficulty recognizing progress
Feeling “behind” or “not good enough”
Comparing themselves to others
Discounting their strengths
The Wall of Success helps reverse those patterns by creating a visual reminder of competence, courage, effort, and growth.
When children remember what they can do, they feel more capable of handling challenges — and their emotional responses become more grounded and balanced.
🧠 Executive Function Connection
Here’s how positive affirmations and success recognition boost EF skills:
✔️ Growth Mindset & Persistence
When kids see past wins, they’re more likely to keep going during hard tasks. (Hello, goal-directed persistence!)
✔️ Self-Monitoring
They begin noticing how their actions lead to positive outcomes.
✔️ Emotion Regulation
Affirmations calm the nervous system and reduce cognitive overload.
✔️ Flexible Thinking
Shifts “I can’t” → “I can try,” or “I’ve done something hard before.”
This becomes the emotional foundation that makes all other regulation tools more effective.
🌟 How to Use the Wall of Success
Each child fills the wall with statements like those in the PDF below, such as:
I am brave
I am a great student
I am loved
I am proud of myself
I can learn from my mistakes
I am enough
These affirmations replace negative internal narratives with empowering ones. Parents and counselors can add specific, authentic examples: ✨ “You were brave when you tried out for soccer.” ✨ “You helped your friend when she was upset.” ✨ “You stuck with your math work even when it was confusing.”
Over time, kids start speaking to themselves differently — an incredibly powerful shift.
🎁 Today’s Free Tool: Wall of Success Printable
Use the printable to help your child, student, or client build their own wall filled with wins, affirmations, strengths, and reminders of how capable they are.
Put it on:
The bedroom wall
A counseling binder
A calm-down corner
A homework station
The goal? Let success be the first thing they see when they’re struggling. 👉 Download Your Activity Here
🌟 Want Support Practicing This in Real Life?
Our 6-Week 1:1 Emotional Regulation Coaching Program helps kids build:
Confidence
Emotional awareness
Self-regulation strategies
Flexible thinking
Positive self-talk
Coping tools for when things get tough
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✨ Let’s make this December the month of calm, clarity, and connection.
Stay tuned tomorrow for Day 5 of Regulation!
With warmth, Giovanna & the Connected Pathways Coaching Team 🧠💛
